5 Ways to Listen to Your Inner Voice After Divorce

by | Oct 18, 2022 | Healing, Master Your Mindset, Self-Care, Wellness

With the world spinning around you and multiple opinions and perspectives coming your way, it can be challenging to find your footing and to listen to your inner voice.

It is imperative you learn how to listen to your inner voice because the opinion that matters most, the voice that needs to be heard amidst the chaos, is yours. You have endured an experience that is life-altering, mind-numbing, earth shattering. And yet you are standing in the brave thicket of the open air that can often feel too thick to breathe, too cold to take in, and too misty to see through. Here you are, standing in the bravery of a world that too often judges someone in your circumstance of life.

This is your story, one that you get to write. A blank page full of light and brightness and possibility.

Possibility can be a scary word when questions are swirling and fears are speaking far too loud to even hear the thoughts that are quickly fleeting from your mind. Stand, sit, and spend a few longer moments in stillness in order to hear your own voice. The voice that has been through so much and may lean into the judgment and doubts that swirl around on the outside. Ground yourself in knowing that you are brave. You are a shining light in a world of dark shadows, a world of people who forget how to pay attention to themselves and allow themselves to feel. Amplify the voice inside of you that says, “Yes, I can do this because I am.”

Here are five ways you can begin to nurture and listen to your inner voice:

1. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you.

It can be challenging to listen to your inner voice and mold it into one that is positive, uplifting, and encouraging. That is why it is essential to surround yourself with people who believe in you, who stand by you, who can remind you of all that you are when you’ve forgotten. Or when the pain has led you to forget. Surround yourself with these people. Sit with them and hear their words of firm belief in your magnificence.

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2. Write.

Write your words of self-doubt. Look at them on the paper and recognize how unfair, how mean, how judgemental they are and challenge them. Cross them out as words said by one who does not know you, who does not see your true strength and embodiment of light within.

Write instead words of grace, words of forgiveness, words of truth–ones that recognize your inherent worth, that you are worthy beyond your wildest dreams. You are a force to be reckoned with, one that has the passion of a flying creature, fleeing from what is not good and freeing oneself from the shackles of a dark existence.

Recognize your place on this earth, one of purpose and life and drive. Write words of recognizing you and all that you are.

3. See.

See yourself in the mirror with eyes of insight, eyes that have seen the difficulties you have seen and still witness the beauty within, the strength that exists in order to move about in a world despite the pain, the heartache, the darkness.

See your smile as you smile at yourself, to yourself, a message that silently says, “I see you.” An eye that allows the shining essence to flow through your tired eyes. Tired from the yelling, the misunderstandings, the unmet needs, and broken promises.

See you and all you’ve been through and stare in awe of you, the being that stands in front of you despite the sleepless nights and damp pillowcase. Witness your beating heart within a chest that has held the pain of losing what could have been. See you.

4. Speak.

Speak words out loud to the figure in the mirror, to the person reading the pages laid out. Speak words of recognition and honoring your existence that in spite of the struggle, you are here. You are alive and breathing and refuse to give up because you are worth fighting for. You are worth living for and breathing for and will continue to put one foot in front of the other because there is no other way, no other choice.

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Choose you and remind yourself of this every day, in every waking moment. “I choose you.” Speak these words out loud to yourself, your inner child, your fighting spirit. Speak life into your aching bones, your weary heart, your tension headache behind your ears and beneath your eyes.

Remind yourself of your worth, your inherent worth, that no matter what people of the past have said or believe, they are unaware of the true you. The you that has been at the receiving end of mistreatment, misunderstanding, painful words, and unfolding lies. You know you and all you’ve been through.

5. Breathe.

Breathe freely knowing you will no longer speak to yourself with degrading words and self-judgment. You will allow space for yourself to feel all that you feel and honor every emotion, every tear, every pang of pain in your heart. You will listen, validate, be present with yourself in a way that no one ever has. You will be your strongest ally, your enduring companion, your greatest hope.

Breathe life into your aching bones, fresh air into your constrictive veins. You are the life and love you’ve been waiting for. Receive it from you, the kindest of words, the most thoughtful of gestures, the most healing of movements. Strengthen your self-care, your self-love, your self-trust. One that no one can break, no one can change, no one can take away from you. Breathe, in and out, at any time and all times to freshen up your spirit.

Learning to listen to your inner voice is an empowering journey.

Lean into knowing that you are there for you through knowing, listening, speaking, and breathing life and light into your life.

You are the light. Shine on and do not allow anyone to dim it no matter what the cost. Shine brightly even on the darkest of nights and in the deepest of shadows. Shine on brightly, love, and step into the world of possibility.

Saadia Yunus for The Better Apart Blog

About the Author

Saadia Z. Yunus is a licensed marriage and family therapist, EMDR trained trauma specialist, relationship and personal development coach, motivational speaker, and community leader. She earned her Masters degree in marriage and family therapy summa cum laude from Hofstra University in New York. She has over 10 years of experience working with individuals, couples, families, and groups. Her passion is to empower others to move beyond what is holding them back and propel them towards living the lives they always wanted to. In addition to therapy, she achieves this through motivational and trauma-informed presentations and workshops throughout the country.

 

 

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Saadia Z. Yunus owns a private practice on Long Island, NY and offers online therapy to anyone in the states of NY and FL. As a relationship and personal development coach, she offers coaching services to anyone all over the world. Saadia serves on the board of the Association of Mental Health and Wellness, is Vice Chair of the advisory board of Dolan Family Health Center, serves on the board of directors of the NY Marriage and Family Therapy Network, and the board of the national men’s mental health organization, The Barbershop Group. She is also the co-founder and chair of The Muslim Women of Long Island (MWLI), a 501c3 organization.  Saadia was raised in Bonifay, Florida and currently resides on Long Island, NY with her husband, four children, cat, and fish.

She has an active social media presence on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, and Twitter.  You can learn more about her at linktr.ee/saadiazyunus 

 

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Saadia Yunus for The Better Apart Blog

About the Author

Saadia Z. Yunus is a licensed marriage and family therapist, EMDR trained trauma specialist, relationship and personal development coach, motivational speaker, and community leader. She earned her Masters degree in marriage and family therapy summa cum laude from Hofstra University in New York. She has over 10 years of experience working with individuals, couples, families, and groups. Her passion is to empower others to move beyond what is holding them back and propel them towards living the lives they always wanted to. In addition to therapy, she achieves this through motivational and trauma-informed presentations and workshops throughout the country.

 

 

Connect with Saadia

Saadia Z. Yunus owns a private practice on Long Island, NY and offers online therapy to anyone in the states of NY and FL. As a relationship and personal development coach, she offers coaching services to anyone all over the world. Saadia serves on the board of the Association of Mental Health and Wellness, is Vice Chair of the advisory board of Dolan Family Health Center, serves on the board of directors of the NY Marriage and Family Therapy Network, and the board of the national men’s mental health organization, The Barbershop Group. She is also the co-founder and chair of The Muslim Women of Long Island (MWLI), a 501c3 organization.  Saadia was raised in Bonifay, Florida and currently resides on Long Island, NY with her husband, four children, cat, and fish.

She has an active social media presence on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, LinkedIn, and Twitter.  You can learn more about her at linktr.ee/saadiazyunus 

 

Business Links: 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/saadiazyunus

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saadiazyunus/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/saadiazyunus

Twitter: https://twitter.com/saadiazyunus

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saadiazyunus/

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