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Is it possible to
get along better?
Yes, with 3 simple steps for
conflict resolution!

Conflict is everywhere―in our homes, at work, on our social media feeds. But conflict isn’t inherently bad… in fact, it’s a normal and healthy part of human relationships, but many of us aren’t good at managing conflict in our everyday lives. In The Secret to Getting Along (And Why it’s Easier Than You Think!), attorney Gabrielle Hartley brings more than two decades of divorce mediation experience to helping you learn how to resolve conflict in ways that strengthen your relationships, reflect your values, and lead to positive outcomes for everyone involved.

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Is it possible to
get along better?
Yes, with 3 simple steps for
conflict resolution!

Conflict is everywhere―in our homes, at work, on our social media feeds. But conflict isn’t inherently bad… in fact, it’s a normal and healthy part of human relationships, but many of us aren’t good at managing conflict in our everyday lives. In The Secret to Getting Along (And Why it’s Easier Than You Think!), attorney Gabrielle Hartley brings more than two decades of divorce mediation experience to helping you learn how to resolve conflict in ways that strengthen your relationships, reflect your values, and lead to positive outcomes for everyone involved.

A peak inside the book

Whether you’re fighting with your partner about housework, struggling to set boundaries with a difficult family member, or dealing with a toxic coworker, The Secret to Getting Along (And Why It’s Easier Than You Think!) is a necessary resource for navigating difficult conversations and situations―and finding the solutions that will help you create a peaceful, less stressful, and more fulfilling life.

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A peak inside the book

Whether you’re fighting with your partner about housework, struggling to set boundaries with a difficult family member, or dealing with a toxic coworker, The Secret to Getting Along (And Why It’s Easier Than You Think!) is a necessary resource for navigating difficult conversations and situations―and finding the solutions that will help you create a peaceful, less stressful, and more fulfilling life.

This practical and accessible guide to everyday conflict resolution will help you:

  • Reframe your approach to conflict
  • Find your way to more harmony and less discord
  • Create better outcomes even in your most difficult relationships
  • Experience more peace even when relationships don’t go well
  • Strengthen your skills in resolving conflicts of all shapes and sizes
  • Feel more connected to the important people in your life

What readers are saying

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“A very thoughtful, practical, and upbeat book with tips you can apply to any relationship.”
–Bill Eddy, author of It’s All Your Fault and Chief Innovation Officer of High Conflict Institute

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“I often see people giving up on relationships because of a conflict they just couldn’t resolve. The Secret to Getting Along (And Why it’s Easier Than You Think) offers step-by-step tools to manage conflict and move through it so you can actually have greater connection.”
—Elizabeth Cohen, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Light at the Other Side of Divorce

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“There are several gems in this book, but what stands out the most is Gabrielle’s focus on the need for self-awareness–becoming more
capable of recognizing the impact of our actions on others.”
—Donna Hicks, PhD, author of Dignity: Its Essential Role in Resolving Conflict

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“A smart, instructive, and engaging guide for anyone who is ready to start addressing conflict in their relationships with a holistic approach.”
—Laura Friedman Williams, author of Available: A Very Honest Account of Life After Divorce

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“A wise and engaging book that should be required reading for anyone in any kind of relationship.”
—Emily Esfahani Smith, PhD,
author of The Power of Meaning

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“The Secret to Getting Along is a smart, comprehensive, user-friendly guide for navigating conflict to enjoy healthy relationships with not only other people, but also ourselves.”
—Jill Sherer Murray, author of Big Wild Love:
The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go

What readers are saying

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“A very thoughtful, practical, and upbeat book with tips you can apply to any relationship.”
–Bill Eddy, author of It’s All Your Fault and Chief Innovation Officer of High Conflict Institute

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“I often see people giving up on relationships because of a conflict they just couldn’t resolve. The Secret to Getting Along (And Why it’s Easier Than You Think) offers step-by-step tools to manage conflict and move through it so you can actually have greater connection.”
—Elizabeth Cohen, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Light at the Other Side of Divorce

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“There are several gems in this book, but what stands out the most is Gabrielle’s focus on the need for self-awareness–becoming more
capable of recognizing the impact of our actions on others.”
—Donna Hicks, PhD, author of Dignity: Its Essential Role in Resolving Conflict

GH Website Revamp

“A smart, instructive, and engaging guide for anyone who is ready to start addressing conflict in their relationships with a holistic approach.”
—Laura Friedman Williams, author of Available: A Very Honest Account of Life After Divorce

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“A wise and engaging book that should be required reading for anyone in any kind of relationship.”
—Emily Esfahani Smith, PhD,
author of The Power of Meaning

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“The Secret to Getting Along is a smart, comprehensive, user-friendly guide for navigating conflict to enjoy healthy relationships with not only other people, but also ourselves.”
—Jill Sherer Murray, author of Big Wild Love:
The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go

While many of us may be better together,
some of us can actually become BETTER APART

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Marital strife and divorce can be your chance to profoundly transform yourself, your mindset and your relationship with a more harmonious and steady vision.

While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart.

What if you emerged from your divorce stronger and more resilient than ever before? Better Apart is the first book to apply the life-changing, healing wisdom of meditation and yoga, combined with practical advice, to help anyone going through the painful and seemingly intractable realities of divorce.

Better Apart radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when
“for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life.

Marital strife and divorce can be your chance to profoundly transform yourself, your mindset and your relationship with a more harmonious and steady vision.

While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart.

What if you emerged from your divorce stronger and more resilient than ever before? Better Apart is the first book to apply the life-changing, healing wisdom of meditation and yoga, combined with practical advice, to help anyone going through the painful and seemingly intractable realities of divorce.

What readers are saying

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“Think of it as the ‘conscious uncoupling’ how-to.”
—People

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“In their new book, Better Apart, Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower advise those going through a separation to employ the wisdom of Marie Kondo… [saying] Kondo’s technique can help anyone in the midst of a breakup, whether it’s a messy divorce or a heartbreaking split.”
—New York Post

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“Addressing the practical, emotional, and spiritual, Better Apart is a major paradigm shifter. As a child of divorce, the lessons within this book resonated deeply with me, and I’m hopeful for the future of separating families who’ll have access to this wisdom.”
—Kate Northrup, bestselling author of Money: A Love Story

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“By encouraging parents to forget perfection and establish clear rules and workable schedules, this book demonstrates that some families can truly be better apart.”
—Dr. Sharon Saline, clinical psychologist and author of What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew
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“Better Apart is my top recommendation for anyone who is wrestling with the ‘divorce’ question but feeling shame or fear around it. Gabrielle sets out a doable approach to not just survive divorce, but to thrive emotionally, financially, and spiritually in life after separation. Her thoughtful but practical book lays out a roadmap for using crisis as a unique opportunity for mindful living and personal growth. An amicable divorce truly is possible, and Gabrielle lays out the steps to get there without sacrificing your well-being.”
—Erin Levin, Esq. CFLS, CEO of Hello Divorce and Levine Family Law Group

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“Gabrielle and Elena provide a warm and thoughtful approach to divorce that includes both legal wisdom and healthy psychological principles. Their discussion of custody and co-parenting leads you on the path toward a calmer and happier future for you and your children.”
—Robyn Landow, PhD, psychologist and parenting coordinator

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“Gabrielle inspires and educates with a practical, accessible approach, empowering readers to think beyond blame, shame, and anger, and instead focus on personal growth, financial integrity, and a peaceful reorganization of the family unit. This book is a must read for those looking for a roadmap to a better, happier, healthier life post-divorce.”
—Marcelle Kott, Esq., Partner, Berger Schatz, Chicago, Illinois

What readers are saying

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“Think of it as the ‘conscious uncoupling’ how-to.”
—People

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“In their new book, Better Apart, Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower advise those going through a separation to employ the wisdom of Marie Kondo… [saying] Kondo’s technique can help anyone in the midst of a breakup, whether it’s a messy divorce or a heartbreaking split.”
—New York Post

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“Addressing the practical, emotional, and spiritual, Better Apart is a major paradigm shifter. As a child of divorce, the lessons within this book resonated deeply with me, and I’m hopeful for the future of separating families who’ll have access to this wisdom.”
—Kate Northrup, bestselling author of Money: A Love Story

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“By encouraging parents to forget perfection and establish clear rules and workable schedules, this book demonstrates that some families can truly be better apart.”
—Dr. Sharon Saline, clinical psychologist and author of What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew
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“Better Apart is my top recommendation for anyone who is wrestling with the ‘divorce’ question but feeling shame or fear around it. Gabrielle sets out a doable approach to not just survive divorce, but to thrive emotionally, financially, and spiritually in life after separation. Her thoughtful but practical book lays out a roadmap for using crisis as a unique opportunity for mindful living and personal growth. An amicable divorce truly is possible, and Gabrielle lays out the steps to get there without sacrificing your well-being.”
—Erin Levin, Esq. CFLS, CEO of Hello Divorce and Levine Family Law Group

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“Gabrielle and Elena provide a warm and thoughtful approach to divorce that includes both legal wisdom and healthy psychological principles. Their discussion of custody and co-parenting leads you on the path toward a calmer and happier future for you and your children.”
—Robyn Landow, PhD, psychologist and parenting coordinator

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“Gabrielle inspires and educates with a practical, accessible approach, empowering readers to think beyond blame, shame, and anger, and instead focus on personal growth, financial integrity, and a peaceful reorganization of the family unit. This book is a must read for those looking for a roadmap to a better, happier, healthier life post-divorce.”
—Marcelle Kott, Esq., Partner, Berger Schatz, Chicago, Illinois

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“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.”
—Gwyneth Paltrow

Better Apart radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life.

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“Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.”
—Gwyneth Paltrow

Better Apart radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life.

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DISCLAIMER: The commentary, advice, and opinions from Gabrielle Hartley are for informational purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal advice or mental health services. You should contact an attorney and/or mental health professional in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

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